Ahh, what a mature mindset at such a young age! Hats off to you, dear Paul Minors!
Well, after leaving half a century behind me, I’ve come to a point in life that I accept my journey through life as an ongoing learning process. I’ve realised much earlier but only in recent years I've started embracing the fact that neither high awareness nor wisdom excludes anyone from the hurt or exempts from the pain especially when we go through hardships. However, I’ve come to realize at the same time that one can find happiness even when the circumstances are not ideal at all. And you are so right about practicing happiness to get better and be happier! Besides, it’s a scientific fact that practice makes it perfect… (at least, it’s how our brains work)
In my opinion, it’s a crucial awareness as well… that one can actually achieve happiness… just as you described on this very blog.
On the other hand, we’re only humans… we learn -or sometimes we think we learn- from the experiences we had and then other issues rise in our lives and we focus elsewhere. Then we may get lost on the relatively new paths we take and forget sometimes… forget what we painfully learned previously…
This article was such to me in a way… a reminder of a painfully learned precious lesson… that happiness doesn’t get magically bestowed on us and it’s a skill that needs to be practiced to maintain it…
So, again, heartfelt thanks goes to you, dear… for reminding me a number of things I can do to get a little closer to achieving my equilibrium and happiness… even if I’m pretty busy with the reconstruction of my life at this period of time…
In addition to this, I wanna add some wisdom I gathered through my experiences as a footnote that… life -the natural system of the universe- has its own rhythm and it’s the rhythm of constant change. On the other hand, every person develops his/her own rhythm in their personal lives as years pass by. Not only this but we also develop a habit of thinking that we can control the rhythm of change by controlling our actions, hence our lives… no, unfortunately, we even don’t stand a chance… we cannot control the rhythm of life… life is… not what we usually expect… it doesn’t always work out the way we plan… So, in my opinion, instead of resisting any change that life brings us, we need to find ways to embrace it too… so to live more in accordance with the natural rhythm of life, hence the constant change… in order to have a more balanced life.
Thanks so much for the thoughtful comment and feedback Bilge! I think your comment about not being able to control change is really important to remember.
We may not be able to control change or life itself... but as you very well explained here, we can control our happiness... Thanks for your reply and your comment Paul ?
Ahh, what a mature mindset at such a young age! Hats off to you, dear Paul Minors! Well, after leaving half a century behind me, I’ve come to a point in life that I accept my journey through life as an ongoing learning process. I’ve realised much earlier but only in recent years I've started embracing the fact that neither high awareness nor wisdom excludes anyone from the hurt or exempts from the pain especially when we go through hardships. However, I’ve come to realize at the same time that one can find happiness even when the circumstances are not ideal at all. And you are so right about practicing happiness to get better and be happier! Besides, it’s a scientific fact that practice makes it perfect… (at least, it’s how our brains work) In my opinion, it’s a crucial awareness as well… that one can actually achieve happiness… just as you described on this very blog. On the other hand, we’re only humans… we learn -or sometimes we think we learn- from the experiences we had and then other issues rise in our lives and we focus elsewhere. Then we may get lost on the relatively new paths we take and forget sometimes… forget what we painfully learned previously… This article was such to me in a way… a reminder of a painfully learned precious lesson… that happiness doesn’t get magically bestowed on us and it’s a skill that needs to be practiced to maintain it… So, again, heartfelt thanks goes to you, dear… for reminding me a number of things I can do to get a little closer to achieving my equilibrium and happiness… even if I’m pretty busy with the reconstruction of my life at this period of time… In addition to this, I wanna add some wisdom I gathered through my experiences as a footnote that… life -the natural system of the universe- has its own rhythm and it’s the rhythm of constant change. On the other hand, every person develops his/her own rhythm in their personal lives as years pass by. Not only this but we also develop a habit of thinking that we can control the rhythm of change by controlling our actions, hence our lives… no, unfortunately, we even don’t stand a chance… we cannot control the rhythm of life… life is… not what we usually expect… it doesn’t always work out the way we plan… So, in my opinion, instead of resisting any change that life brings us, we need to find ways to embrace it too… so to live more in accordance with the natural rhythm of life, hence the constant change… in order to have a more balanced life. Have a good life… Regards, Bilge
Thanks so much for the thoughtful comment and feedback Bilge! I think your comment about not being able to control change is really important to remember.
We may not be able to control change or life itself... but as you very well explained here, we can control our happiness... Thanks for your reply and your comment Paul 🙏
Love your perspective, Paul! Personally, I have always thought of myself as "NOT happy from birth" ;-) What a calamitous idea! This started changing dramatically when I decided to believe in myself. I am happier than ever now. I also changed my perception by 'allowing' myself to be happy - this was a BIG thing! I no longer feel guilty that I am happy, even though I have not achieved everything I would like to. And, I have defined my happiness by evaluating what I really enjoyed and did not allow myself to do because 'it is not productive enough', and started doing it. Also, instead of driving myself all the time and hanging onto an old motto I borrow from Anthony Robbins "Constant and never-ending improvement" and not allowing me to relax and enjoy small successes (and at the same time forgetting the rest of his teaching on being your most powerful self)...I now give myself small rewards for small victories and allow myself a pat on the back in my journal :-)
Thanks for sharing Adele! It's great to hear you're now in a happier place and your comment demonstrates perfectly how much happiness is in our control.
Love your perspective, Paul! Personally, I have always thought of myself as "NOT happy from birth" ;-) What a calamitous idea! This started changing dramatically when I decided to believe in myself. I am happier than ever now. I also changed my perception by 'allowing' myself to be happy - this was a BIG thing! I no longer feel guilty that I am happy, even though I have not achieved everything I would like to. And, I have defined my happiness by evaluating what I really enjoyed and did not allow myself to do because 'it is not productive enough', and started doing it. Also, instead of driving myself all the time and hanging onto an old motto I borrow from Anthony Robbins "Constant and never-ending improvement" and not allowing me to relax and enjoy small successes (and at the same time forgetting the rest of his teaching on being your most powerful self)...I now give myself small rewards for small victories and allow myself a pat on the back in my journal :-)
Thanks for sharing Adele! It's great to hear you're now in a happier place and your comment demonstrates perfectly how much happiness is in our control.
Well, after leaving half a century behind me, I’ve come to a point in life that I accept my journey through life as an ongoing learning process. I’ve realised much earlier but only in recent years I've started embracing the fact that neither high awareness nor wisdom excludes anyone from the hurt or exempts from the pain especially when we go through hardships. However, I’ve come to realize at the same time that one can find happiness even when the circumstances are not ideal at all. And you are so right about practicing happiness to get better and be happier! Besides, it’s a scientific fact that practice makes it perfect… (at least, it’s how our brains work)
In my opinion, it’s a crucial awareness as well… that one can actually achieve happiness… just as you described on this very blog.
On the other hand, we’re only humans… we learn -or sometimes we think we learn- from the experiences we had and then other issues rise in our lives and we focus elsewhere. Then we may get lost on the relatively new paths we take and forget sometimes… forget what we painfully learned previously…
This article was such to me in a way… a reminder of a painfully learned precious lesson… that happiness doesn’t get magically bestowed on us and it’s a skill that needs to be practiced to maintain it…
So, again, heartfelt thanks goes to you, dear… for reminding me a number of things I can do to get a little closer to achieving my equilibrium and happiness… even if I’m pretty busy with the reconstruction of my life at this period of time…
In addition to this, I wanna add some wisdom I gathered through my experiences as a footnote that… life -the natural system of the universe- has its own rhythm and it’s the rhythm of constant change. On the other hand, every person develops his/her own rhythm in their personal lives as years pass by. Not only this but we also develop a habit of thinking that we can control the rhythm of change by controlling our actions, hence our lives… no, unfortunately, we even don’t stand a chance… we cannot control the rhythm of life… life is… not what we usually expect… it doesn’t always work out the way we plan… So, in my opinion, instead of resisting any change that life brings us, we need to find ways to embrace it too… so to live more in accordance with the natural rhythm of life, hence the constant change… in order to have a more balanced life.
Have a good life…
Regards,
Bilge
Well, after leaving half a century behind me, I’ve come to a point in life that I accept my journey through life as an ongoing learning process. I’ve realised much earlier but only in recent years I've started embracing the fact that neither high awareness nor wisdom excludes anyone from the hurt or exempts from the pain especially when we go through hardships. However, I’ve come to realize at the same time that one can find happiness even when the circumstances are not ideal at all. And you are so right about practicing happiness to get better and be happier! Besides, it’s a scientific fact that practice makes it perfect… (at least, it’s how our brains work)
In my opinion, it’s a crucial awareness as well… that one can actually achieve happiness… just as you described on this very blog.
On the other hand, we’re only humans… we learn -or sometimes we think we learn- from the experiences we had and then other issues rise in our lives and we focus elsewhere. Then we may get lost on the relatively new paths we take and forget sometimes… forget what we painfully learned previously…
This article was such to me in a way… a reminder of a painfully learned precious lesson… that happiness doesn’t get magically bestowed on us and it’s a skill that needs to be practiced to maintain it…
So, again, heartfelt thanks goes to you, dear… for reminding me a number of things I can do to get a little closer to achieving my equilibrium and happiness… even if I’m pretty busy with the reconstruction of my life at this period of time…
In addition to this, I wanna add some wisdom I gathered through my experiences as a footnote that… life -the natural system of the universe- has its own rhythm and it’s the rhythm of constant change. On the other hand, every person develops his/her own rhythm in their personal lives as years pass by. Not only this but we also develop a habit of thinking that we can control the rhythm of change by controlling our actions, hence our lives… no, unfortunately, we even don’t stand a chance… we cannot control the rhythm of life… life is… not what we usually expect… it doesn’t always work out the way we plan… So, in my opinion, instead of resisting any change that life brings us, we need to find ways to embrace it too… so to live more in accordance with the natural rhythm of life, hence the constant change… in order to have a more balanced life.
Have a good life…
Regards,
Bilge
Personally, I have always thought of myself as "NOT happy from birth" ;-) What a calamitous idea!
This started changing dramatically when I decided to believe in myself. I am happier than ever now.
I also changed my perception by 'allowing' myself to be happy - this was a BIG thing! I no longer feel guilty that I am happy, even though I have not achieved everything I would like to. And, I have defined my happiness by evaluating what I really enjoyed and did not allow myself to do because 'it is not productive enough', and started doing it.
Also, instead of driving myself all the time and hanging onto an old motto I borrow from Anthony Robbins "Constant and never-ending improvement" and not allowing me to relax and enjoy small successes (and at the same time forgetting the rest of his teaching on being your most powerful self)...I now give myself small rewards for small victories and allow myself a pat on the back in my journal :-)
Personally, I have always thought of myself as "NOT happy from birth" ;-) What a calamitous idea!
This started changing dramatically when I decided to believe in myself. I am happier than ever now.
I also changed my perception by 'allowing' myself to be happy - this was a BIG thing! I no longer feel guilty that I am happy, even though I have not achieved everything I would like to. And, I have defined my happiness by evaluating what I really enjoyed and did not allow myself to do because 'it is not productive enough', and started doing it.
Also, instead of driving myself all the time and hanging onto an old motto I borrow from Anthony Robbins "Constant and never-ending improvement" and not allowing me to relax and enjoy small successes (and at the same time forgetting the rest of his teaching on being your most powerful self)...I now give myself small rewards for small victories and allow myself a pat on the back in my journal :-)
― Abraham Lincoln
― Abraham Lincoln